Ding, over at BitchPhD has the right response to this prop 8 bullshit (thanks, soon-to-be-adopted-homestate!). You must, must go read the entire thing, but to wet your whistle:
Basically, Prop 8 tells every gay person in California to suck it up and accept it: you will never have the same right or access to the same things to which I, my straight sister and straight brother in law have rights and access.
There. That's the Proposition in a nutshell.
Let's cut to the chase: it was straight people who tanked equal rights for gays in California. (Let that sink in a bit. We'll come back to that, too.)
Here's the thing about equal rights - they actually supercede religion and race and they do so because the idea behind equality and civil rights is quite simple:
IF SOCIETY WORKS ONE WAY FOR ONE PARTICULAR GROUP OF PEOPLE, TO THEIR BENEFIT, THEN IT BETTER WORK THE EXACT SAME WAY FOR EVERYONE ELSE.
I will repeat this often and loudly at whoever is puffing themselves into a self-righteous ball about why they voted for Prop 8:
You know what gay people want? What you and I have. Freedom. Autonomy. Dignity. The privilege to introduce the person they love to a room full of people as their spouse. They want to fulfill a human desire to create a family and have that family be protected just as your family is protected. They want what we have and we should give it to them.
The burden to change the paradigm of hatred and bigotry shouldn't fall entirely on the community oppressed by it; it should be shared equally by the privileged who must sacrifice something in order to see the promised land of equal rights for all.)